There always seems to be a pile of bills waiting for me during Veronika’s nap (adulting never ends), but as she moves into a longer, more predictable afternoon nap, I’m reminded that this is a necessary time when I can make room for my own headspace.

In case you’re struggling to do the same with a baby of about 9 months old, here are a few of my favorite ways to chill out while Veronika naps:

• Drink an espresso.
• Do the crossword. You could also read the news, but chances are that might just stress you out more. I stick to the puzzle.
• Listen to my music. This one is key if we’re on the go during her nap. When it’s just Veronika in the car, her music class CD is always going. When big brother rides along, pop music dominates. But when the kids sleep… mama music! I’m going to date myself but admitting that that means classic rock or classical music on repeat.
• Finally, remember to do nothing. There is always a room to clean, or a list to make, but sometimes your body and soul benefit best from a little nothing. In five minutes, she will wake up, and I will go back to being a mom. In five minutes, I will be needed again. But right now, I just am.How do you pause and chill out when baby naps? Learn a new language? Meditate? Please share in the comments!