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Spend Time Alone with Baby

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Today, Veronika and I kept things as simple as possible, with the focus on making the most of our one-on-one time.

Oddly, I remember feeling with both children that solo time with the baby was never in ample supply. With Travis, we had a constant flow of visitors wanting to meet the baby, even though we were “nesting” and barely left the apartment for the first month. With Veronika, it’s a matter of having an older sibling who is almost always around!

But I love being able to carve out solo moments with her, and the key is to be deeply present.

Don’t forget, you don’t need to be doing anything spectacular with your newborn at this point. Diapering, feeding, dressing him or her, talking, and cuddling, are what the baby needs. Bathing is another great way to bond, as per our sponge bath tonight (no tub baths until the stump falls off!).

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Whether you’re breast feeding or bottle feeding, try to tune out distractions in these moments. Today as I nursed, taking time to make eye contact with Veronika, I worked my way up from my toes to my head, briefly tensing each muscle and then releasing. This is a great way to relax into the moment.

Finally, just make eye contact and talk! Your baby will get to know you. As you sit together quietly, envision what you want your bond to look like over the years ahead, and what kind of parent you want to be. Here we are in her alert moment, deep in “conversation”!

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Happy bonding!

Tippy Toe

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I love little nursery rhymes for babies – the words will bring a smile, or just a look of contentment. And of course many rhymes have actions that go along with the words, to engage multiple senses (think: This Little Piggie Went to Market or Hickory Dickory Dock).

Here was a new one Veronika and I played today! While your child is in your lap, walk your fingers up one arm, over the head, and down the other arm, saying this cute rhyme:

Tippy tippy tiptoe, off we go

Tippy tippy tiptoe, to and fro

Tippy tippy tiptoe, through the house

Tippy tippy tiptoe, quiet as a mouse.

We continued the game all day as I carried Veronika from place to place, tip-toeing as I moved. The words seem to demand a hushed whisper, and Veronika seemed to love hearing this very soft tone.

Older siblings may enjoy getting in on the tip-toe play, too!

Take a Neighborhood Walk

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Fresh air is so good for babies (just dress them in one more layer than you yourself are wearing), and it was so nice today to have a quiet moment just with Veronika to walk our neighborhood.

Buckle your baby in a carrier, and head out there! This was my chance to break out the carrier after 4 years, and remember how all the buckles attached!

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As we walked, I talked to Veronika about the things we could see – dogs out for a stroll, buildings, blue sky. It was hard to take pictures, so here is our shadow stopping to look at flowers:

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And fountains:

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Chances are, your baby will be so comfy they’ll nod off along the way – Veronika did! But that’s okay, I just kept walking and enjoying the moment with my baby girl.

 

 

Decode Baby’s Cries

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One of the best pieces of advice I found before becoming a mother was a snippet from an old Oprah episode that promised to decode a baby’s cries. I highly recommend watching the video in full, but for a quick summary, here’s the golden advice I took away from it.

  • Neh = I’m hungry
  • Heh = I’m tired
  • Eh = I’m uncomfortable (gas etc.)

It’s amazing that infants universally make these cries, and also how tuned into them you’ll be if you know what to listen for.

But because even this method isn’t fail-proof, today I took the time to listen to Veronika when she cried. You can even ask your child, “Why are you crying?” They won’t be able to tell you yet, but it sets up two-way conversation and makes baby feel heard.

Also be sure to look for non-verbal cues (i.e. baby’s body language). Turning their head toward an object or stuffing fists near their mouth (otherwise known as “rooting”) is a sure sign that baby is hungry. Turning their face away is a good indicator that the baby might feel overwhelmed or overstimulated. And of course you can guess what little smiles or wide-open eyes mean!

If you really can’t figure out what the baby needs, take a pause for you both. I lay Veronika down on a blanket on the floor, closed my eyes and took a deep breath. Calming yourself is equally as important in these moments as calming the baby.

Do you have a secret tool you use to decode baby’s cries? Please share in the comments!

 

Begin a Baby Journal

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Today’s prompt from a baby game book was to start journaling about the journey… I confess it felt redundant, as I already journal every night. But in following the recommendation, I thought about other ways to journal and record Veronika’s days, alongside my nightly written entries.

When they are this young, babies are literally changing daily, and it’s these little moments that I try to jot down each night. But words can only jog the memory so much. A visual journal is equally important. Try to capture a picture of your child each day in these early weeks and months, carefully labeled (three days old, five days old, etc.), and you’ll see the changes that take place and add up over time.

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I love storing pictures online, divided by folder into months, so they are easily accessible!

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Video is a fantastic log, too. You’ll never remember quite the pitch of your baby’s coos, or the way their expression quirks into a little smile if you don’t have a video record.

You may also have been filling out a pregnancy journal along the way. Many contain a section at the end about the first few days back at home, so don’t neglect it! You’ll thank your past self when you look back on these precious early memories later on.

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What form will your baby journal take? Please share in the comments!

Update: Just a friendly reminder to add to your journal, since it’s been about a month since this post! There is so much to keep track of these days – that Veronika’s eyes are changing from baby blue to a deeper brown, that she loves staring at the apple prints I posted near her diaper table, that she’s beginning to make sounds more like coos than just cries, and that her smiles seem to be true ones of joy. What have you noticed that’s different? Please share in the comments!

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Mama’s Scent

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One of the biggest differences between baby one and baby two is that I can’t always be there for Veronika as I was for Travis – school drop-off, Halloween events, you name it. Even in one week, I’ve learned that I can’t be in two places at once.

Fact is, whether your newborn is your first or your fourth, you’re going to be away from them eventually. But you can leave a little bit of yourself behind – your scent that is. Newborns have a remarkably attuned sense of smell (able to distinguish their mother’s milk from another mom’s milk, for example), which is their most developed sense at birth.

If you’re like me, then you have a burp cloth draped around you pretty constantly. I especially have one on my shoulder while nursing Veronika, so it’s covered in my scent (And in leaked milk!). And this makes it the perfect item to leave behind.

Case in point, today while I went grocery shopping with Travis, the burp cloth was left behind to bring comfort.

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You don’t want to leave the cloth with a baby who is unattended (nothing in the crib until a year old, remember!) but under supervision, the scent may just help a crying baby settle down.

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Sing a Lullaby

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Phew! After a first few hectic days at home, adjusting to life with two, I’m taking time during nursing sessions or before bed to sing Veronika lullabies.

I love lullabies, and I particularly love singing them while nursing, even if bedtime isn’t shortly to follow (newborns are in and out of sleep so often, that pretty much any time counts as nap time!). Singing keeps me present and in the moment, instead of turning to my phone or another distraction. Plus it engages her senses, and helps us bond. If she dozes off at the end of the song, so much the better!

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Some traditional ones to sing include: “Baa Baa Black Sheep”; “Twinkle Twinkle Little Star”; “Rock-a-Bye Baby”; “Hush Little Baby”; and “Swing Low Sweet Chariot.” But don’t stop there! Almost anything can be a lullaby if you sing it with the right intention. To wit, some others I love for little babies include:

The Water is Wide

Little Drummer Boy

Slip Sliding Away

Those Were the Days

Taxi

Blowing in the Wind

Scarborough Fair

I adore singing for my children so much that I even recorded an a cappella lullaby CD when Travis was small! It doesn’t matter if you are a professional musician or can’t carry a tune… I hope this post inspires some singing for your little one today.

Start Talking

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If you’re the parent of a newborn, chances are you’re already guilty of speaking “baby-ese”, that particular, sing-songy voice that people seem to instinctively use with infants. And there’s a reason for it. The pitch is higher than normal adult-speak, and the vowels are longer; studies show that babies pay more attention to adults using this type of language than those speaking in a normal pitch, and that the exaggerated mouth movements help infants better grasp meaning.

So start talking! Your newborn may seem like a sleeping-eating-pooping machine, but they are already taking in so much of the world.

Today’s activity with Veronika, then, was simply to remember to keep talking, especially in a home where adults and big kids dominate.

Any time is a good time to talk, whether over breakfast with big brother…

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…or in quiet one-on-one moments. You might even elicit a little smile.

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Or a big gummy grin.

 

Diaper Time Reflections

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Right now, your newborn can only focus about 8 to 10 inches away – ideal for focusing on your face during nursing sessions or snuggles of course! But that means you’ll want to find other ways stimulate the eyes up close.

To wit, a small unbreakable toy mirror on the diaper table during changing time is a fantastic option. Not only will baby be entertained (many such mirrors contain crinkly flaps, or small stuffed animals to look at, but oh my goodness…

Diaper Mirror (2)… Veronika is wondering, who is that cute face in the mirror?

Baby won’t understand yet that they are looking at themself, but it will certainly provide a distraction from an unwanted diaper change.

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No need to reserve this activity for the diaper table – Veronika loves looking at the mirror in her playgym, too!

First Sensations

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Your newborn is developing all five senses rapidly in his or her first few weeks out of the womb. It’s easy to focus on the obvious senses like hearing and sight, but don’t forget to include touch along the way! Here are a few simple ways to engage your baby’s sense of touch.

During diaper changes, while the baby is calm, try stroking hands, feet, or tummy with different soft objects. Great items for this purpose include feathers and silk scarves.

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Veronika loved the silk against her cheek!

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You might also try swatches of other fabric like velvet if you have them.

Another fun one is to roll a small inflatable beach ball over baby’s tummy before you put the new diaper on (take care while doing this move if the umbilical stump hasn’t yet fallen off). Sure to elicit a giggle or two!

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Off the diaper table, you can also engage the sense of touch while nursing. Try just stroking along baby’s fingers and toes, or use a soft cotton ball. This move also helps draw awareness to baby’s hands and feet, so he or she can see where the body begins and ends.